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Why I Don’t Want to Get Married & Why That’s Okay

I do not EVER want to get married. Ever.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a good wedding. One of my close friends had the most beautiful wedding earlier this year and I honestly think it was one of the best events I’ve been to in a while. I love being able to dress up, eat as much buffet food as my tummy can handle and who am I to pass up getting drunk with family and friends? It’s just simply.. not for me. I’ve been in a great relationship now for over two and a half years, and now certain people are starting to wonder when we will get engaged. Me and Dan have talked about it and luckily are both in agreement that marriage is not something we are bothered about. This might seem odd to some of you, so I’ve got a small list to explain why.

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Money:

The average cost of a wedding in the UK is £27,000, doesn’t that horrify you as much as it does me? I could think of a million other things I’d rather spend money on, like a luxury once in a lifetime trip to Japan or even most of the deposit on a house.

I hate rings:

This is probably the most silly reason to not get married/engaged, but I really hate rings. I have never properly worn a ring, I end up wearing it for a few hours and constantly fiddle with it as it is so alien on my finger or I loose them.. probably from all the fiddling. But you can hardly get engaged without a ring, although I did think of putting the ring on a necklace and wearing it that way instead.

Children:

I’m not 100% sure I want children, I am about 60% sure right now, which is a huge improvement from my 100% fuck no attitude I had last year. Luckily in today’s society you aren’t expected to be married before having children, but I think that’s the only reason I have for getting married.

Stage fright:

I’ve always been a shy person, I think I have only been on a stage in front of an audience twice in my life and I was bloody terrified the whole time. So I couldn’t imagine having a day completely dedicated to you where everyone’s attention is on you, makes me feel stressed thinking about it! I have a habit of getting so nervous that I don’t enjoy things, I wouldn’t want to not enjoy the apparent ‘best day of my life’ from being terrified. Also I know I’d get nervous and end up shaking, meaning I will probably end up tripping over stuff and dropping everything haha.

I Like my last name:

This sounds strange.. but I actually really like my last name, I don’t think any other name will work well with my first name. I’m the last person in my family with my last name, so I would like to carry it on, therefore if I did have kids I would have to either hyphenate my last name with my boyfriend’s or beg him to take my last name (doubt that would happen!).

Stress:

I really don’t think I could organise a whole wedding, I get stressed having to organise my own birthday events! It’s too much to organise and I wouldn’t even know where to start, and I have no idea what dress to have, how my hair will look or even my make-up. Also we have the problem of both my boyfriend’s parents and mine aren’t together, it would be super stressful keeping them from not feeling awkward with the other parent. I’d pick up on the awkward vibes and no doubt it would sort of ruin my day, I wouldn’t want to force people who don’t like each other together just for the sake of a wedding.

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You never know though, I might change my mind in the future.. or win the lottery, so a wedding wouldn’t be too much hassle as I’d just hire a wedding planner haha! Thanks for reading, if any of you have the same views as me or want to chat about mine then send me a message! 🙂

xox

 

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